Black Nail polish is hot

From sports stars to rock stars

You don’t have to be a goth to sport black nail varnish; it is more popular than ever and can look simultaneously cool and sophisticated.

My top picks:

Chanel_Black Satin
OPI_Onyx
Essie_Licorice

Who has sported black nail varnish:

Chinese royalty
Freddie Mercury
Marilyn Manson
Models in Gucci ads
David Beckham
Lindsay Lohan
Nicole Richie
Peacocking item for PUA Mystery

Derren Brown

There is an entertainer from Britain you may have heard of, Derren Brown. He has books, DVD’s and a series out that is shown on BBC entertainment. He also performs stage shows. What is interesting about him is that he uses a combination of NLP, psychology and hypnosis in his shows. He also performed a sequence called the pick-up on his Trick of Mind series and has referenced Ross Jefferies in an interview.

He has great showmanship and seems very intelligent in interviews.

 

 

What reminded me of Derren Brown was a post by a PUA who was using hypnotism and NLP to keep his relationship with his girlfriend interesting.

A reader of Bizarre magazine wrote in and asked Derren Brown on what he thought about the use of such techniques. Here is a what he had to say:

 

 

 

        Q: My girlfriend and I have a fetish for hypnosis and we like to 
        incorporate it into our sex sessions. We’ve found a few websites that 
        distribute videos relating to our fetish but, due to British law, 
        it’s extremely difficult to buy them. Can you assist?

        Derren Brown: What a strange pair of puffins you sound. I’m 
        surprised that hypnosis has taken your fancy in this context – I 
        imagine you both clucking like chickens at the point of no return. 
        It’s certainly not dangerous but I’m unsure how you incorporate it 
        into the `sessions’, as you call them. If you are both responsive 
        subjects then the event may be safely boosted by a suggestion of 
        heightened physical sensitivity or a convincing hypnotic sense-
        hallucination that surrounds you with the sights, sounds and smells 
        of a crowded public place such as a boxing ring or outside British 
        Home Stores in the Whitgift Centre, Croydon. Whatever does it for 
        you. And don’t pass up on the opportunity to play Paul McKenna’s 
        tapes during the act itself as a bonus – he has a great one on 
        improving your golf swing.So experiment away – once you have got into 
        a relaxed state, spend some time imagining your G-spots spreading 
        over your entire body, until you feel yourself tingling with 
        rudeness. Make huge representations to yourself of your partner as a 
        kind of sex-god or goddess and practise creating the feeling of post-
        coital exhaustion and quickly changing it into a profound feeling of 
        renewed desire. If you can set your mind to habitually switch from 
        the former to the latter, you should have it made. If, however, it’s 
        just the dirty thrill of a sluggish, sleepy partner that appeals, 
        certain drugs are available for these purposes which will save you 
        the trouble of finding something to swing in front of your partner’s 
        face.

 

Book List

This should have you covered…

What I have noticed lately on the PUA/seduction front is that there has been a definite shift towards getting your mindset right as that is what you automatically project in your words and body language (most of the time without you being aware of it).

 

More people are also unlocking the power of hypnotherapy and subconscious autosuggestion. One of the pioneers of this field was Milton H. Erickson.

I think we are very far from properly understanding the subconscious mind but I’m sure most people who are familiar with this topic will agree that the subconscious mind is powerful beyond belief and your key to unlimited success in any field you choose.

 

Here is a list of books that I would suggest reading if you want to get to the source of what most of today’s inner game psychology and techniques are based on:

 

Body Language

• Amazing Face Reading – Mac Fulfer  
• Body Language: How to Read Others’ Thoughts by Their Gestures (Overcoming Common Problems) – Allan Pease
• Everybody’s Guide to People Watching – Aaron Wolfgang
• How to make people like you in 90 seconds or less – Nicholas Boothman
• I Know What You’re Thinking: Using the Four Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life (hardback) – Lillian Glass
• I Know What You’re Thinking: Using the Four Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life (paperback) – Lillian Glass
• Peoplewatching: The Desmond Morris guide to body language – Desmond Morris
• Reading People: How to Understand People and Predict Their Behaviour – Anytime, Anyplace – Jo-Ellan Dimitrius, Mark Mazzarella
• The Book of Tells: How to read people’s minds from their actions – Peter Collett
• The Naked Ape – Desmond Morris

Cold Reading

• Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life – Paul Ekman
• Full Facts Book of Coldreading – Ian Rowland
• Initiations – A viewpoint on the art of coldreading – Alexander Thomas
• Making Contact: The Real Secrets of Contact Mindreading – Satori
• Speech, Reading and Listening Tactics – Rosemary McCall
• The Ultimate Guide to Cold Reading – B Thomas
• The Writer’s Guide to Character Traits – Linda N. Edelstein
• Hellstromism – S. Reilly

Hypnosis

• A User’s Guide to the Brain – John J Ratey
• Hypnosis – A Comprehensive Guide – Tad James MS PhD, Lorraine Flores, Jack Schober
• Hypnosis: The entrancing art – Mike Lawson
• Hypnotic Realities: The Induction of Clinical Hypnosis and Forms of Trance – Milton H. Erickson
• Hypnotism and Meditation – Ormond McGill
• Monsters and Magical Sticks: There’s no such thing as hypnosis – Steven Heller
• Open to Suggestion: The uses and abuses of hypnosis – Robert Temple
• Self-hypnosis and Other Mind Expanding Techniques – Charles Tebbetts
• The Healing Power of Hypnotism: What It Is and How It Works – Caroline Shreeve
• The Hypnotic World of Paul McKenna – Paul McKenna
• The New Encyclopaedia of Stage Hypnotism – Ormond McGill
• The Practice of Hypnotism: Volume 1: Traditional and Semi-traditional Techniques and Phenomenology – A.M. Weitzenhoffer
• The Theory and Practice of Hypnotism: Unlock the Full Potential of Your Unconscious Mind – William J. Ousby

Hypnotherapy 

• Handbook of Hypnotic Suggestions and Metaphors – D.Corydon Hammond
• Mind-body Therapy: Methods of Ideodynamic Healing in Hypnosis – Ernest Lawrence Rossi, David B. Cheek
• Special Techniques of Brief Hypnotherapy – Milton Erickson
• The Psychobiology of Mind-body Healing: New Concepts of Therapeutic Hypnosis – Ernest Lawrence Rossi

Influence

• Easily Led: A history of propaganda – Oliver Thomson
• Get Anyone to Do Anything – David J. Lieberman
• Influence: Science and Practice – Robert Cialdini
• The Psychology of Persuasion: How to Persuade others to your way of thinking – Kevin Hogan
• Unlimited Selling Power: How to Master Hypnotic Selling Skills – Donald J. Moine

 

Mentalism

• Kosher Products Lecture Notes – Andy Nyman
• Mentalism, Incorporated – Chuck Hickok
• Mind Warp – Richard Mark
• Mind Reading Exposed – mindreadingexposed.com
• New Dimension Lecture Notes – Jez Rose
• Paramiracles – Ted Lesley
• Secrets of Mind Power – Harry Lorayne
• Secrets of the Amazing Kreskin: The World’s Foremost Mentalist Reveals How You Can Expand Your Powers – Kreskin
• Short, Punchy and Mental Lecture Notes – Andy Nyman
• The Mental Magick of Basil Horwitz – Basil Horwitz

  NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

• 23 Steps to Success and Achievement: The Dynamic Plan That Will Change Your Life – Robert Lumsden
• Accelerated Learning in the Classroom – Alistair Smith
• Advanced Language Patterns Mastery – Larry McLauchlin
• Applications of NLP – Robert Dilts
• Beliefs: Pathways to Health and Well-being – Robert B. Dilts, Tim Hallbom and Suzi Smith
• Change Your Mind: And Keep The Change – Connirae Andreas, Steve Andreas
• Communication Magic: Exploring the Structure and Meaning of Language – L. Michael Hall
• Develop Your NLP Skills – Andrew Bradbury
• Frogs into Princes – Richard Bandler and John Grinder 
• Interpersonal Communication – Peter Hartley
• Introducing NLP – John O’Connor and John Seymour
• Jay Haley on Milton H. Erickson – Jay Haley
• Leaves before the wind: Leading edge applications of NLP – Charlotte Bretto Milliner, John Grinder, Judith DeLozier and Sylvia Topel
• Managing with the Power of NLP: Neuro-linguistic Programming for Competitive Advantage – David Molden
• My Voice Will Go with You: The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson, M.D. – Milton H Erickson and Sidney Rosen
• NLP at Work: The Difference that Makes a Difference in Business – Sue Knight
• NLP for Lazy Learning: Superlearning Strategies for Business and Personal Development – Diana Beaver
• NLP made easy – Carol Harris
• NLP Workbook: A Practical Guide to Achieving the Results You Want – Joseph O’Connor
• Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, MD: Volume 1 – Richard Bandler and John Grinder
• Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson, MD: Volume 2 – Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Judith DeLozier
• Presenting Magically: Transforming Your Stage Presence with NLP – David Shephard, Tad James
• Reframing – Richard Bandler, John Grinder 
• Selling with NLP: Revolutionary New Techniques That Will Double Your Sales Volume: Guaranteed – Kerry L. Johnson
• Sleight of Mouth – Robert Dilts
• Teaching Seminar with Milton H. Erickson – Jeffrey K Zeig 
• The Encyclopedia of Systemic NLP and NLP New Coding – Robert B. Dilts, Judith A. Delozier
• The Language of Metaphors: An Introduction – Andrew Goatly
• The NLP Field Guide (Part 1): A reference manual of practitioner level patterns – Jules and Chris Collingwood
• The Secret of creating your Future – Tad James
• The Sourcebook of Magic: A Comprehensive Guide to the Technology of NLP – L. Michael, PhD Hall, Barbara P. Belnap
• The Spirit of NLP: The Process, Meaning and Criteria for Mastering NLP – L. Michael Hall
• The Structure of Magic II – Richard Bandler, John Grinder
• The Structure of Magic: a Book About Language and Therapy – Richard Bandler, John Grinder
• The User’s Manual for the Brain: The Complete Manual for Neuro-linguistic Programming Practitioner Certification – Bob Bodenhamer and L Michael Hall
• Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill
• Thinking from A to Z – Nigel Warburton
• Time for a Change – Richard Bandler
• Saul Alinsky rules for radicals
• Machiavelli
• Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality – Tad James and Wyatt Woodsmall
• Time-Lining: Patterns for Adventuring in Time – Bob Bodenhomer, Michael Hall
• Training with NLP: Skills for Managers, Trainers and Communicators – Joseph O’Connor, John Seymour
• Trance-Formations: Neuro-linguistic Programming and the Structure of Hypnosis – Richard Bandler, John Grinder, Connirae Andreas
• Using Your Brain – for a change: Neuro-linguistic Programming – Richard Bandler
• Whispering in the wind – Carmen Bostic St Clair, John Grinder

 

Cliff’s List

It is good to associate yourself with Playboy…

 

Here is my letter that was posted on Cliff’s List http://www.cliffslist.com/

 

Kelly Monaco:
Female PUA: A New Perspective

 

I read a random article in the news about Russell Brand seducing Che Guevara’s granddaughter with musings on Alexander the Great (who, if I recall correctly, was bisexual.) Classic !

Reminded me of the PUA community and other topics in which I am very interested. Which lead to this post.

I like lists, so here is one I wrote a few days ago.

Some tricks to get the attention of men (from a female perspective):

1. If the guy has put a bottle / hat / jacket on the table, nudge it with your hand as you talk to him. Making contact with an object belonging to him will subconsciously create a type of Kino between the two of you.

2. Be physically inviting (but not too much.) High-fiving, brushing past him, and casual touching all work well.

3. Make friends with a girl that is with a group of guys. Compliment her ! Tell the guys that they are lucky to be around her because she is hot / looks nice wearing tight jeans / has really nice lips.

This has a few effects:

a) She will feel less threatened by you.
b) You may come across as bisexual – which is a good thing.
c) You have put the guys down a little by saying they are “lucky to be around her.”
d) She may return the favour with a compliment about you, and point out something good about you to the guys she is with.

4. Look a guy up and down and say something like, “You look nice,” then walk away.

5. Make him feel good in front of his friends.

6. I carry cheap Playboy Bunny necklaces with me and put them around a guy’s neck if we have had a good conversation and he asks for my number.

This has a few effects:

a) It’s good to associate yourself with Playboy.
b) He is more likely to phone you if he has something of yours.
c) He can go and show it off to his friends …

7. Be approachable. It will give men the opportunity to open you. Even if you are not interested in a guy that approaches you, it will make you look desirable if you are seen talking to different men.

8. If you are with a group of men, do not bore them with talk about hair / make-up / shopping. That’s when most men stop paying attention.

9. Keep the type of man in whom you are interested in mind when you get dressed to go out. If you like goth / vampire boys, wear an S&M studded cuff. If you want a biker guy, wear leather gloves.

10. Know your brands ! If you are in the game of attracting successful / famous men, you need to know how to identify these men at a party. Know what a genuine Jacob and Company watch looks like (from 5 meters away.) Look out for Ralph Lauren Polo shirts, etc.

11. These visual clues also give you information on how to act / what to mention around these men. If you see a man wearing a Rolex Oyster Perpetual watch at a party in the Hamptons, he may well have a yacht. Do not refer to this in an obvious way, but slip it into your conversation.

12. Don’t take your self-empowerment to the extreme. You don’t want to come across as a feminist.

13. Make yourself stand out.

14. A mistake lots of women make is looking disgusted / berating a guy if he mentions anything sexual or says something like, “That chick over there has a nice ass.” You need to associate yourself with sex, not distance yourself from the topic. Reply by agreeing with him that the girl does have a nice ass, and that he has good taste in women for noticing that.

I don’t intend to offend any men by what I said in points 10 and 11. I know it sounds a bit “gold digger,” but as books such as The Game emphasize, men are attracted primarily to looks, while women are looking for value in a potential partner. (See also Stylelife Challenge Day 14: The Evolution of Sexual Preference by Thomas Scott McKenzie and Ray Timmons.)

Some (but not all) indicators of value are conspicuous status symbols (e.g. watches, brand name clothing etc.)

I think I will write another list in the future, giving a more well-rounded view of to how to identify quality men (which some men may learn from as well) and will include things like the mindset of the successful male, and how this is projected through body language, etc. One thing I feel I should mention now is that the leader of a group of men is usually the one walking in the front of the group when they enter the club / go to get a drink at the bar.