Sometimes a female point of view is helpful to men to understand what women are thinking.
This week’s Q&A covers kinky Christmas shopping, love letters and how to deal with the questioning women put potential partners through. Kelly Monaco, writer for thisisnew.me and frequent contributor to theattractionforum.com has the answers.
Reader’s question
After being in a long-term relationship that lasted three years I have recently started going to clubs again to meet women. A question that a lot of women ask me is “how many sex partners have you had ?” I usually reply something to the lines of “I’m waiting for the right girl.”
Some women then ask me if I am a virgin. This makes me very uncomfortable and I end up having trouble keeping the conversation going and then fail to get the womens number.
What would the best answer to the question be and why are women so interested in knowing things like this when we have just met?
Kelly M. responds
I’m not sure I will believe a guy if he says ” I’m waiting for the right girl”. It depends on how he looks, his body language etc. Most women can pretty accurately guess if a guy is a virgin or if he has had multiple partners, it’s a sixth sense. So it is always better to say something believable.
A women might interpret a guy who says “I’m waiting for the right girl” as meaning you have given up on sex because you can’t get it. A man that has control over his life is attractive and most women find it pretty normal that men are out in clubs looking for sex so don’t try and hide it.
Women like men who are sexually assertive. They want to feel that the guy they are chatting to can have almost any girl in the club but he chose them because he finds them more interesting/ more attractive than the other girls there.
You are a guy, you need to make women feel comfortable about sex by showing them that you are confident with it and are in control of that aspect of your life.
Women find it attractive when men can confidently talk about sex. This doesn’t mean you need to discuss it and make it personal but at least be confident with it like it is part of your everyday life. You must demonstrate that you are not afraid of sex.
Most women know that the sex is only good if the guy is self-confident.
Women also associate sex with intuition, women want men who can make them feel something.
Napoleon hill says a common characteristic of successful men is that they have highly sexed natures. This is very true! So display sexual energy.
Anyways, so back to how you should answer ‘how many sex partners have you had?’ Your answer: “When I find the right women I enjoy the sex, it is a great creative force that makes us both feel energised.”- something along those lines…If you say it confidently she won’t continue to hassle you about it. You can tell her later the number of partners you have had but you need to prove yourself to her first. If she is asking you how many women you have slept with you haven’t succeded at proving yourself to her yet.
Reader’s question
My girlfriend asked me to buy her a vibrator for Christmas, what do you think?
Kelly M. responds
Get her a pair of pink fluffy handcuffs while you are busy with the shopping…
Reader’s question
I am in a long-term relationship and want to write a letter to go with my girlfriends Christmas present as we are going to be apart for Christmas. I have heard that words are very powerful and my girlfriend is a romantic so she enjoys things like letters. I have mentioned this idea to my male friends and all they do is laugh and tell me to find a Hallmark card. I want to give her something more personal, any advice on what I should include in the letter?
Kelly M. responds
That is a great idea. Here are some hints to get you started:
Buy some nice letter writing stationery.
Mention specifics. Describe what you enjoy about her and your relationship.
Keep it positive. Don’t mention any past arguments etc.
Emphasise how the relationship has made you a better person.
Mention something relating to the future, an outing/holiday/adventure you may have planned for next year.
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