Song Silent movie. Band Toxic Shame.
Song Silent movie. Band Toxic Shame.
The poet Byron had a skull which he drank out of at dinner parties to amuse and disgust his guests.
More recently rappers have adopted the pomp cup as a status symbol to drink Louis Roederer Cristal out of at parties.
When I was walking around London shopping last year one of the items I wished to buy was my own pimp cup. I’m not entirely sure why I wanted one, but I thought it may look nice in the cellar I was planning to build under my house.
There is an area in London called Middle temple where most of the barristers (advocate/ lawyer types) are situated. I walked into a shop in that area that appeared to be selling antiques. I located a goblet/ grail looking cup and took it over to the cashier to pay. He gave me a strange look and asked for my lodge number. I was confused until he explained to me the store sells regalia and accessories for freemasons and you need to belong to the lodge to purchase the items as they are all branded for the specific lodges.
Twas an interesting experience…and I’m still looking for the ultimate pimp cup.
With a new Playboy club (hopefully) opening in London next year here is a link to a copy of the original Bunny Manual given to the waitresses in the first Playboy Clubs.
It is good to associate yourself with Playboy…
Reminded me of the PUA community and other topics in which I am very interested. Which lead to this post.
I like lists, so here is one I wrote a few days ago.
Some tricks to get the attention of men (from a female perspective):
2. Be physically inviting (but not too much.) High-fiving, brushing past him, and casual touching all work well.
3. Make friends with a girl that is with a group of guys. Compliment her ! Tell the guys that they are lucky to be around her because she is hot / looks nice wearing tight jeans / has really nice lips.
This has a few effects:
4. Look a guy up and down and say something like, “You look nice,” then walk away.
6. I carry cheap Playboy Bunny necklaces with me and put them around a guy’s neck if we have had a good conversation and he asks for my number.
This has a few effects:
a) It’s good to associate yourself with Playboy.
b) He is more likely to phone you if he has something of yours.
c) He can go and show it off to his friends …
8. If you are with a group of men, do not bore them with talk about hair / make-up / shopping. That’s when most men stop paying attention.
9. Keep the type of man in whom you are interested in mind when you get dressed to go out. If you like goth / vampire boys, wear an S&M studded cuff. If you want a biker guy, wear leather gloves.
10. Know your brands ! If you are in the game of attracting successful / famous men, you need to know how to identify these men at a party. Know what a genuine Jacob and Company watch looks like (from 5 meters away.) Look out for Ralph Lauren Polo shirts, etc.
11. These visual clues also give you information on how to act / what to mention around these men. If you see a man wearing a Rolex Oyster Perpetual watch at a party in the Hamptons, he may well have a yacht. Do not refer to this in an obvious way, but slip it into your conversation.
12. Don’t take your self-empowerment to the extreme. You don’t want to come across as a feminist.
13. Make yourself stand out.
14. A mistake lots of women make is looking disgusted / berating a guy if he mentions anything sexual or says something like, “That chick over there has a nice ass.” You need to associate yourself with sex, not distance yourself from the topic. Reply by agreeing with him that the girl does have a nice ass, and that he has good taste in women for noticing that.
I don’t intend to offend any men by what I said in points 10 and 11. I know it sounds a bit “gold digger,” but as books such as The Game emphasize, men are attracted primarily to looks, while women are looking for value in a potential partner. (See also Stylelife Challenge Day 14: The Evolution of Sexual Preference by Thomas Scott McKenzie and Ray Timmons.)
Some (but not all) indicators of value are conspicuous status symbols (e.g. watches, brand name clothing etc.)
I think I will write another list in the future, giving a more well-rounded view of to how to identify quality men (which some men may learn from as well) and will include things like the mindset of the successful male, and how this is projected through body language, etc. One thing I feel I should mention now is that the leader of a group of men is usually the one walking in the front of the group when they enter the club / go to get a drink at the bar.
Sometimes a female point of view is helpful to men to understand what women are thinking.
This week’s Q&A covers kinky Christmas shopping, love letters and how to deal with the questioning women put potential partners through. Kelly Monaco, writer for thisisnew.me and frequent contributor to theattractionforum.com has the answers.
Reader’s question
After being in a long-term relationship that lasted three years I have recently started going to clubs again to meet women. A question that a lot of women ask me is “how many sex partners have you had ?” I usually reply something to the lines of “I’m waiting for the right girl.”
Some women then ask me if I am a virgin. This makes me very uncomfortable and I end up having trouble keeping the conversation going and then fail to get the womens number.
What would the best answer to the question be and why are women so interested in knowing things like this when we have just met?
Kelly M. responds
I’m not sure I will believe a guy if he says ” I’m waiting for the right girl”. It depends on how he looks, his body language etc. Most women can pretty accurately guess if a guy is a virgin or if he has had multiple partners, it’s a sixth sense. So it is always better to say something believable.
A women might interpret a guy who says “I’m waiting for the right girl” as meaning you have given up on sex because you can’t get it. A man that has control over his life is attractive and most women find it pretty normal that men are out in clubs looking for sex so don’t try and hide it.
Women like men who are sexually assertive. They want to feel that the guy they are chatting to can have almost any girl in the club but he chose them because he finds them more interesting/ more attractive than the other girls there.
You are a guy, you need to make women feel comfortable about sex by showing them that you are confident with it and are in control of that aspect of your life.
Women find it attractive when men can confidently talk about sex. This doesn’t mean you need to discuss it and make it personal but at least be confident with it like it is part of your everyday life. You must demonstrate that you are not afraid of sex.
Most women know that the sex is only good if the guy is self-confident.
Women also associate sex with intuition, women want men who can make them feel something.
Napoleon hill says a common characteristic of successful men is that they have highly sexed natures. This is very true! So display sexual energy.
Anyways, so back to how you should answer ‘how many sex partners have you had?’ Your answer: “When I find the right women I enjoy the sex, it is a great creative force that makes us both feel energised.”- something along those lines…If you say it confidently she won’t continue to hassle you about it. You can tell her later the number of partners you have had but you need to prove yourself to her first. If she is asking you how many women you have slept with you haven’t succeded at proving yourself to her yet.
Reader’s question
My girlfriend asked me to buy her a vibrator for Christmas, what do you think?
Kelly M. responds
Get her a pair of pink fluffy handcuffs while you are busy with the shopping…
Reader’s question
I am in a long-term relationship and want to write a letter to go with my girlfriends Christmas present as we are going to be apart for Christmas. I have heard that words are very powerful and my girlfriend is a romantic so she enjoys things like letters. I have mentioned this idea to my male friends and all they do is laugh and tell me to find a Hallmark card. I want to give her something more personal, any advice on what I should include in the letter?
Kelly M. responds
That is a great idea. Here are some hints to get you started:
Buy some nice letter writing stationery.
Mention specifics. Describe what you enjoy about her and your relationship.
Keep it positive. Don’t mention any past arguments etc.
Emphasise how the relationship has made you a better person.
Mention something relating to the future, an outing/holiday/adventure you may have planned for next year.
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